LETTING GO!!!

Four years ago I was traveling with my dad from Abuja to Taraba state ( northern Nigeria 🇳🇬) to go pick up my mum. I had just returned home for the summer holidays and my Dad felt it would be a very good idea for us to bond after being away for about a year, and since I had never visited Taraba state that was an opportunity for me so we began our journey.

The distance from Abuja to Taraba state is about 10 hours by road, so you can imagine how tired I was coupled with the fact that some of the roads were really bad with lots of potholes like that wasn’t enough, it started raining.

I slept off so many times while my dad Drove, I would wake up talk to him and then sleep back it continued like that until we were almost close to our destination and then my dad said something to me.

He said can you imagine how you slept soundly almost all through the journey even with the potholes and how I had to keep swerving in order to avoid accidents, also with the fact that it was raining and the road wasn’t visible enough but still you weren’t disturbed you kept on sleeping because you knew I would drive carefully. I smiled and told him I trusted him with the wheels.

 This was the point where he threw the punchline he said this is how we all should be with God in our daily walk with him in other words this is the kind of relationship we should have with our father Jesus. We should get to that point where we are just so peaceful and relaxed even when there are potholes on the road and storms rage You don’t get worried or terrified because you know God has got your back.

Last week Sunday, the focus of the teaching was on worry and we were taught that worry means sidelining God from the picture of your life. I couldn’t have agreed more because most times when we go through things we automatically take God out of the picture we start looking for help else where and we forget he is with us . We feel like he won’t show up at the time we need him to and he can’t possibly understand what we are going through. While you are trying to help yourself out , Fear kicks in and since fear breeds anxiety, you become anxious and the end product becomes depression.

I was talking to a friend and I said jesus take the wheel and she said how about Jesus take the whole car. How brilliant!!! Yes Jesus I don’t want to give you just a part of me “the wheel” I want you to take the whole of me “ the whole car” That is the only way I can get rid of worry or fear because I know my life is His and He is in charge.

Some of us still have areas of our lives that we have not fully surrendered to Him and we are battling daily, and worrying about things which ideally we are not meant to worry about. Isn’t it funny how much we trust our earthly parents or human beings more than we trust God? We even trust our ideas more than God’s word and promises, we forget that man fails, ideas come and go, friends walk away, people disappoint even some parents give up on their kids but JESUS NEVER FAILS, HE NEVER FORSAKES HIS OWN, HE NEVER CHANGES HE IS THE SAME YESTERDAY TODAY AND FOREVER AND HE IS EVER WILLING TO SHOULDER YOUR BURDENS.

Isaiah 43:1-2(voice translation)

Eternal One: Remember who created you, O Jacob? Who shaped you, O Israel? See, you have nothing to fear. I, who made you, will take you back. I have chosen you, named you as My own. When you face stormy seas I will be there with you with endurance and calm; you will not be engulfed in raging rivers. If it seems like you’re walking through fire with flames licking at your limbs, keep going; you won’t be burned.

LET GO OF YOUR FEARS AND WORRIES  AND LET GOD IN , YOU WILL BE GLAD YOU DID.

 

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THE FOUR TYPES OF LISTENERS.

We all want to be heard but a vast majority of us aren’t good at paying attention to others. Few days ago I was thinking about the progress I have made when it comes to listening, and I decided to write on four major groups of listeners based on my experience.

Category one

The nonchalant listener : They absolutely don’t care about what the other party is saying, the words go into one ear and leave through the other. They don’t put themselves in the shoes of the speaker. This type of listener is never willing to make a change, because they feel the speaker isn’t worth listening to. They are close minded and have no compassion.

Category two

The ones who listen to react: you hear statements like “just keep talking “ from this type of listeners, because they already have a heap of words waiting to dish out on the speaker. They quote you word by word and counter every thing you say, they are always on the defensive. They can never be wrong. Sadly most ladies fall into this group. Once upon a time I used to be this type of listener but I have made progress and I am still making progress.

Category three

The physically present but mentally absent: This ones are here but at the same time not here, meaning while the speaker is speaking, they are thinking of something else. They might really want to listen but their minds are always preoccupied. They find it difficult to engage their minds, and they never remember what was talked about.

Category four

The ones who are genuinely interested in what the speaker is saying : Even when the speaker isn’t making much “sense” this ones try to make sense out of it. They listen with their eyes, ears, and heart. They care and are willing to make corrections because they always put themselves in the speakers shoes. They see from different angles not just from their own point of view.

Wouldn’t it be absolutely amazing if we could all fall into the fourth category? It all begins with a little bold step. You and I can do better.

REMEMBER TWO WRONGS CANNOT MAKE A RIGHT.

Have a blessed week ahead.

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TRYING ON ORANGE COLOR FOR THE FIRST TIME!!!

Hy my lovelies….

To think that once upon a time I hated the color orange, and to prove that to you, this orange colored shiffon top I have on is the first I have had in my twenty something years of existence. I just had the notion that it wasn’t the best color for my skin tone and secondly it is a very loud color ( I did not want to be noticed, my height was already doing that job). I have no idea how I managed to buy this top, and after two years of it laying down in my wardrobe I decided to give it a try. I was disappointed in a good way.

With the way this color is popping on me, I take back all the negative notion I had about it in the first place.

My expectations skyrocketed from zero to one hundred. Summer is definitely my favorite season because you get to play around with colors of different sort not to mention the beautiful flowers.

I paired my chiffon top with black jeans just because I was trying to play safe, and of course my favorite pair of sneakers which am sure by now most of you guys are used to seeing in my pictures.

A pair of hoops to accentuate my face.

I am stepping out of my comfort zone and trying out more colors. No more assumptions. On a side note if you haven’t read my post on assumptions click here trust me it’s a must read.

Do you have any colors you have sworn you can never have on? Let me know in the comment section.

Jeans: Collins

Shoes: Zara

Top and hoops: random shop

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THE ONE THAT MADE A DIFFERENCE

Today’s blog is dedicated to Mr O. I am sure you are wondering why I am dedicating this blog to you. For sometime now, I have been putting up offers for a business and it’s not been going the way I want it to, infact most of the offers have been declined. Earlier this week I got an email from one of them and it wasn’t a good news, I told Mr O about it and he said something amazingly beautiful to me, he said THEY REJECTED A STAR. I believe God used you Mr O to speak such a timely word to me and I just want to say thank you. That word is one I will never forget, you have no idea what that statement did to me. That statement reminded me of the way God sees me, he sees me as a star and whether I am rejected or accepted I will keep shining because that is what stars do.

I also learnt from this one statement that I can always be a Mr O to somebody, and so can you. Be the one that will always bring calm in the midst of chaos.

Do you have a Mr or Mrs O in your life? Or has someone been a Mr O to you? Let them know you appreciate them

I love and appreciate you Mr O. Xoxo

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VISUAL ACUITY TEST. HOW FAR CAN I SEE!!!

ME: Lord how do you think? How do you craft out your plans? How do you keep leaving me wowed every single time by your acts? How do you see? I don’t just get it!!!

God: Have you forgotten I am God? The one who called light out of darkness, the one who saw Beauty in a world that was empty, void and shapeless…..

God again: The question is how far can you see?

This has been the thought in my head. Let’s look at the book of Genesis.

Genesis 13:14-17 ( voice translation)

After Lot had moved away, the Eternal spoke to Abram.

Eternal One: Look around you now, as far as you can see to the north, south, east, and west. All of the land you see is for you and your descendants to possess forever. I will make your descendants as many as there are specks of dust on the earth. If anyone could count the dust of the earth, then he could also count how many descendants I’m talking about! Go on now, and walk the entire expanse of the land, for you need to see what I am giving you!

For the sake of those who don’t know this story I will give a brief explanation. God called Abraham and asked him to leave his fathers house, Abraham was 75 years old at that time ( am here wondering what a man is still doing in his fathers house at the age of 75). Abraham obeyed and he took his wife Sarah, his nephew Lot, and all of their flocks and herds. The Bible records that both men were very wealthy. They left to a land called Canaan and not too long that they had arrived, a famine arose in that land. Because they both had a whole lot of livestock the grassland wasn’t enough for them anymore which led to fights between Abraham and Lot’s servants. Long story short Abraham called Lot and asked him to choose any portion of the land he wanted so peace could reign. Being the smart guy that Lot thought he was, he chose the most fertile part of the land where there was enough water and grassland ( honestly I don’t blame him because most of us would do the same). Lot left with his wife, his two daughters, servants, and his herd to this new land. Abraham was left with a land which was practically barren speaking from the physical and human point of view.

The land wasn’t just barren but guess who was barren also, Sarah Abraham’s wife

So here was Abraham in a barren land, with a barren wife, a nephew that played him and left to another land. And then God began speaking to him, asking him to look as far as he can see, to the north,east, west and south, telling him he will give him all of the land including his descendants

Hold on there God what “descendant” are you talking about? You do know Sarah is barren right? And she is way past childbearing age, by the way who even wants a barren land?

Hmmmmm if only we could see things through God’s eyes and just trust him enough to lead the way. Did you know the land Lot chose was marked by God for destruction because their sins were just too much? Lot did not see that coming he was too shortsighted to see just like we can be. As foolish as what God said sounded, He brought His word to pass Abraham was 100 years old and Sarah was 90years old when they had Isaac their son. Even Sarah laughed at God when he said she was going to conceive. you and I are descendants of Abraham.

1st Corinthians 1:25

You can count on this: God’s foolishness will always be wiser than mere human wisdom, and God’s weakness will always be stronger than mere human strength.

When you begin to see things the way God sees them even your relationship with other humans will be automatically changed, you will begin to see others as equal to you not lower than you because God sees every single one of us as dear and precious in his sight. Seeing things through God’s eyes gives us a greater sense of purpose, we just know there is more that he expects from us, we no longer get scared or frustrated or angry when things don’t go the way we want because all we can now see is the Bigger picture and that bigger picture is Gods point of view

So many of us have a 20/20 vision physically but a 0/20 vision spiritually

My prayer today is that God will open your eyes and my eyes to see what He is seeing, and not just to see but to also walk in the light of what He is revealing to us.

HE KNOWS THE END FROM THE BEGINNING.

Have a blessed week ahead

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HOW TO STYLE FLORAL PENCIL SKIRT

Hy Guys….

Hope you are all enjoying your weekend? It’s a busy weekend for me, but it’s going on smoothly.

The floral print was one that hit the runway so hard in spring of 2017 and I must say it has made a major comeback this season. Designers like Loewe, Emilia wickstead, Chloe and Rocha lit up the runway with their beautiful floral prints.

As you can see I have on a high waisted, below the knee  pencil floral print skirt. what I really love about this skirt is that the prints have practically 80 percent of the color pallets which are really trendy this summer. Click here to check out the summer color pallets for 2018. The floral print doesn’t require much effort for it to stand out, it automatically speaks for itself.

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I paired my skirt with a white high neck sleeveless crop top to give me a chick look. The floral pencil skirt can also be styled with a denim top, a white T-shirt or what ever color of shirt you prefer as long as the colors match. If you want a more classy look, throwing on a pair of blazers with heels would do the trick.

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As much as I love my sneakers I love me some pair of heels also, so i took pictures with both just to see what it would look like and honestly I can’t say which I prefer more, I really loved both looks.

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I got the fabric from a textile shop and my seamstress whom you can find here made the skirt.

crop top: Terannova

Sneakers: Zara

photography: click here

Makeup : click here

Have a Blessed weekend

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COLOR PALLETS FOR SUMMER 2018

I think at this point I can boldly say summer is finally here to stay, so while we enjoy and appreciate this amazing weather we have been blessed with, here are some colors you shouldn’t shy away from this season. A touch of any one of this colors in your wardrobe can make a big difference, you would agree with me that colors such as black, grey, deep brown e.t.c can get boring so spice up your wardrobe this season with the latest trending colors.

Lavender: this color will dominate the whole summer season. Romantic yet elegant, you can wear it on a masculine suit or a gown. There is a lot of beauty and calm attached to this color.

Purple: embodies the balance of red’s stimulation and blue’s calm with a sense of mystic and royal qualities, purple is a color often well liked by very creative or eccentric types and is one of the favorite colors of this season. The color purple is specifically associated with royalty and the nobility, creating an impression of luxury, wealth and extravagance.

Bright Red: A totally bold, entrancing hue. The color red is a warm and positive color associated with our most physical needs and our will to survive. It exudes a strong and powerful masculine energy. It is one of those colors that captures the attention of people when you walk by and it’s definitely a trendy color this season.

Yellow: The color yellow isn’t one of my best colors but I am beginning to develop some kind of likeness for it, it is definitely one of those colors that do not require any effort for it to stand out. If you are looking to have more fun with your outfits this summer try the color yellow.

Sky Blue: This is one of my favorite colors and I can definitely say this color favors both the extremely macho man and the super feminine woman.

Green: This is one color you don’t see people wear most of the time, but I am glad it’s on the runway this season. Green promotes a love of nature, and in my opinion the color green speaks of growth. Show the color green some love this summer.

Blue: one of those colors I get really attracted to, so it’s no surprise that it is trending this season.

Thank you so much for stopping by I really appreciate your love and support.

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photo credit: google images

AN EXCEPTIONAL LOVE STORY

This love story all began in the garden of Eden. There was nothing existing on the face of the earth and so God set out to work, he created all that was needed for survival on earth. Something was missing and that was man God needed a thinking being so he created man not just any kind of man but one just like Him.

Genesis 1:26-27( new living translation)

Then God said, “Let us make human beings in our image, to be like us. They will reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, the livestock, all the wild animals on the earth, and the small animals that scurry along the ground.” So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.

After creating man (Adam and Eve),He didn’t stop there He created a beautiful garden and put them in there. He loved them so much and He wanted them to be happy and live comfortably. Every evening he would come down to earth to fellowship with man, they were priceless to Him. Man knew no sin they were blameless but eventually they disobeyed God by eating from the tree which He asked them not to eat from THE TREE OF THE KNOWLEDGE OF GOOD AND EVIL. Eating from this tree exposed them to their flaws and they found out they were naked so they were ashamed and they hid from their creator. God killed an animal and used the skin to cloth them. The killing of the animal had a significance which I would explain as we go on.

God’s nature isn’t the nature of sin and because he is too pure to behold sin they could no longer stay in the garden.

Since the first man and woman now had the sin nature, this nature was automatically passed down to their children and the generation yet to be born.

Romans 3:23

For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard.

God had to set rules for man do this don’t do this but the more the rules the more man kept on falling short this was because man now had the sin nature and all that the sin nature knew how to do was to sin. The rules kept exposing them to their flaws it just showed them how incapable they were to keep God’s commandments based on their strength.

One of those laws was that when someone sinned blood had to be shed for the sin of such a fellow to be forgiven if not such a person would die.

Hebrews 9:22

In fact under the Law almost everything is cleansed with blood, and without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness [neither release from sin and its guilt, nor cancellation of the merited punishment].

Ezekiel 18:20

The person who sins is the one who will die. The child will not be punished for the parent’s sins, and the parent will not be punished for the child’s sins. Righteous people will be rewarded for their own righteous behavior, and wicked people will be punished for their own wickedness.

You would ask why blood though? Why not something else? That is because blood plays a very vital role in human existence, medically we have been thought that blood contains all of the oxygen and nutrients needed for ones body to thrive, this nutrients and oxygen will be of no use to the individual if there is no means for it to be transported which is where the role of blood comes into play. So in essence there is life present in blood. Since the human life had to be spared, animals were killed, not any kind of animal the animal had to be without blemish( no defect). meaning the life of an innocent animal was taken in exchange for the life of a guilty human.

The forgiveness gotten through the shedding of animal blood was temporary, the animal blood couldn’t give everlasting life. which was why it had to be done over and over.

God didn’t want this to keep happening so he decided to send someone, someone who was without blemish someone whose blood would wash away sins once and for all so he decided to send his son Jesus, this is really amazing because he didn’t send an angel he chose his most priced possession. WHAT A LOVE. The death of Jesus on the cross signified the death of our old sinful nature and when he arose from the grave we were given a new nature, the nature of righteousness.

John 3:16

For God so [greatly] loved and dearly prized the world, that He [even] gave His [One and] only begotten Son, so that whoever believes and trusts in Him [as Savior] shall not perish, but have eternal life.

All of the shedding of animal blood which started from the very beginning was God preparing man for his redemptive plan. So why didn’t God send his son Jesus from the very beginning when man sinned in the garden of Eden? That is because He (God) needed man to know he can never be independent of God, trying to keep a set of laws would never be possible without God’s help. God automatically made a way out for man.

How can one access this free gift of redemption?

The keyword is to believe. Yes believe that Jesus died on the cross and he payed the price for your sin once and for all, and His blood now runs through your veins because the blood of the innocent (Jesus) was exchanged for the blood of the guilty( you and I )

The only way we can freely access God is through His son Jesus.

John 14:6

Jesus said to him, “I am the [only] Way [to God] and the [real] Truth and the [real] Life; no one comes to the Father but through Me.

Being good doesn’t qualify anymore or gives you access into God’s kingdom because if it were so jesus wouldn’t have died in the first place. What makes us qualified enough to access Gods kingdom is God’s grace through the blood of Jesus.

Ephesians 2:8-9

For it is by grace [God’s remarkable compassion and favor drawing you to Christ] that you have been saved [actually delivered from judgment and given eternal life] through faith. And this [salvation] is not of yourselves [not through your own effort], but it is the [undeserved, gracious] gift of God; not as a result of [your] works [nor your attempts to keep the Law], so that no one will [be able to] boast or take credit in any way [for his salvation].

Jesus went through all of the pain and shame on the cross of Calvary just so He could reconcile us back to Himself , he just loves to have a daily and continuous intimacy with each and every one of us. He is ever willing and ever ready to accept us into His arms. Every thing you can ever hope for is in God just open up your heart to Him and receive Him.

Revelation 3:20-21

Behold, I’m standing at the door, knocking. If your heart is open to hear my voice and you open the door within, I will come in to you and feast with you, and you will feast with me. And to the one who conquers I will give the privilege of sitting with me on my throne, just as I conquered and sat down with my Father on his throne.

Have a blessed week ahead.

JESUS LOVES YOU.

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7 FRIUTS YOU SHOULD EAT IN SUMMER AND WHY

Watermelons

Did you know watermelons are 91% water? Well if you didn’t know now you know, which is why you need to seize every opportunity you get this summer to consume as much watermelons as you can. They keep you super hydrated and full. They can be added to your fruit salad or better still blended and taken in the juiced form. The seeds can also be roasted and eaten as a snack. If you want your skin looking radiant and you don’t consume much water, try watermelons. Are you also looking for ways to shed off some inches off that waist line? Try watermelons because due to their high water content they keep you full so regardless of the amount you consume you are safe.

Cucumbers

Another fruit which contains much water ( about 97%). This is a hot season so you need as much water as you can get. Cucumbers also contain essential nutrients like vitamin k Which is a group of structurally similar, fat-soluble vitamins that the human body requires for complete synthesis of certain proteins that are prerequisites for blood coagulation, and which the body also needs for controlling binding of calcium in bones and other tissues. Cucumbers are also a healthy choice for weight loss.

Peaches

This is one of my favorites because it contains a good amount of fiber which aids in digestion It is also a good source of vitamins C, A, E, and K, among other nutrients. The antioxidant vitamin C, when eaten in its natural form (in whole foods such as peaches) or applied topically, can reduce wrinkles, improve overall skin texture and help to fight skin damage caused by the sun and pollution. Vitamin C also plays a vital role in the formation of collagen, the support system of your skin.

Strawberries

This is another summer fruit which shouldn’t be ignored, they are usually very pricy during the winter period so what better time to have them if not now. This juicy fruit contain a relatively high amount of potassium and are recommended to those with high blood pressure to help negate the effects of sodium in the body. A low potassium intake is just as big a risk factor for developing high blood pressure as a high sodium intake. If you struggle with constipation strawberries will be a great choice for you due to their high fiber content.

Cherries

I love me some cherries, they are one of the reasons I anticipate summer, unfortunately they are only in season for about 2 months. Did you know cherries contain natural melatonin? Cherries contain natural melatonin, which is a powerful antioxidant and free radical scavenger that helps “cool down” excess inflammation and associated oxidative stress. It also plays a vital role in sleep and bodily regeneration. They are also a great source of fiber, vitamin c,carotenoids, and anthocyanin.

Nectarines

they are quite similar to peaches in appearance except for the lack of fuzziness on the skin, which is there on peaches. Nectarine is a luscious nutrient-dense and low-calorie fruit. Nectarines are excellent sources of potassium and other minerals such as phosphorous, magnesium, iron, zinc and calcium, without any harmful cholesterol. Nectarine promotes detoxification by preventing the binding of toxins to the colon walls and by flushing harmful elements out of the body.

Tomatoes

Yes I regard tomatoes as a fruit rather than a vegetable, to each his own. They can be eaten raw in salads, used as a sauce for different recipes and even taken as juice 🥤.The water content of tomatoes is around 95%. The other 5% consist mainly carbohydrates and fiber. Tomatoes are a good source of several vitamins and minerals, such as vitamin C, potassium, vitamin K and folate.

Health is wealth, when you eat good you feel good.

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