Birthday Inspiration… My Journey to self discovery

Hy Guys,

I have not been posting as often as I used to due to the nature of my job, but I will try to keep to a more consistent schedule and that will be twice in a week for now. Mondays and Thursdays would be my upload days and if time permits I might post thrice a week so fingers crossed.

I celebrated my birthday on the 26th of September, yes I know its far gone but its never too late to write and let you guys in on the things I have learnt so far.

As I approached 25 a lot began to change about me and I began to need more, I just got to a place in my life where  being transparent, open and clear about my needs became a topmost priority for me (not like I have never been a transparent person).

I would highlight few of the changes that have happened so I don’t bore you guys.

  1. I have learnt to differentiate my needs from my wants
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priorities

I don’t know why it took this long for me to get my act together lol but so far am enjoying the place I am at… learning to separate my needs from my wants has helped and saved me a lot of stress. its like a soul surgery where I get to ask myself tons of  questions and making a decision to let the “Wants” go and stick to the needs. Bear in mind that some of the wants seemed like needs few years ago but with Gods wisdom I have been able to see things more clearly..

2. Defining things for what they truly are

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what are we? what do you want? what do I want…..

This one is somewhat similar to the first point but also different in the sense that it had to do with a very delicate aspect of my life… I honestly had the courage just few days ago to encourage myself and tell myself that it is ok to define things especially when it comes to our emotions. There is no point wasting time over something which you obviously know wasn’t/isn’t  going anywhere. if you are at this place in your life Currently I just want to let you know you will be fine, take that bold step few days/months/years from now I bet you, you would be glad you did what you did.

3. unapologetic

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I refuse to deny my feelings to make everyone else comfortable

This is not being Rude, and  I will always apologize when am wrong…. when I say unapologetic I am saying

  • I choose to live in my truth
  • we all deserve to be happy and to embrace life to the fullest, so I am going to explore and reach deep into those things which I would not do normally, not minding what someone somewhere has to say.
  • I would only explain my choices when I really need to.
  • I choose to be me

4. Being open (life can take you by surprise)

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Do not limit yourself

My dad once said to me do not put yourself in a box, you can fall in love with someone you never thought in your wildest dream you would, you can travel to a place you never pictured yourself travelling to, you can learn something you never had interest in, there is always something better don’t limit yourself…. Thank you Daddy I love you.  I am definitely open and am not scared of failing it can only get better.

5. Asking a lot of why’s

Asking myself why has helped me to do  things for the right reasons and not just because I have to do them. Never be scared to ask why, you would be shocked at how one answer can change your perspective on how you previously saw something.

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Staying focused while shopping

HOW TO STAY FOCUSED AND STICK TO YOUR BUDGET WHILE SHOPPING.

I am certain 90% of people have walked into a shop with the intention of buying one item, lets say a BAG  or a SCARF and they ended up leaving with the total opposite of what they had in mind in the first place… I can testify to this.

So How do we get to discipline ourselves when we go shopping and not get carried away? here are some of my tips.

  1. Before you go shopping ask yourself this questions.

I know I know no body got time for that… But trust me if you are on a budget and you know how much every penny you spend means, you wouldn’t mind engaging yourself in a serious and true conversation. Questions such as

  • Do I really need to go shopping?
  • How important is this item I am about to buy?
  • Do I see myself making a good use of this item?
  • Can I do without it?

Of course there are some items which you do not need to think twice about because they are very important… Having this kind of conversation with yourself would save you the stress of going shopping at the wrong time and also prevent you from getting those unnecessary items.

2. Go with the exact amount of money or a little above the amount you budgeted for.

On several occasions I have gone shopping with too much money than I needed and am sure you know the end of the story, I ended up buying Extra things..

I would advice you know how much, or have an estimate of the price of the item/items you are willing to purchase then take an extra amount (Not something so huge). Having the exact amount would help you stay focused, you can only end up admiring those items you wished you could get but cant get at that moment….

You would get home and be happy about the choice you made and life goes on.

3. Be accountable to yourself

How long would you continue the cycle of getting home and wishing you had spent less or stuck with your budget? set a goal and stick to it, it is not easy I know but you can do it. Think of how much you would be saving and how much you can actually be able to count on yourself as someone who set a goal and was able to accomplish it.

4. Go shopping with the right people

I don’t like to shop alone, it is very boring for me, so if you are someone like me please do not go shopping with someone who you know would make you buy something you really do not need in your life. whenever I have an urge of buying an item which wasn’t part of my budget I love to ask whoever am with questions, because I know at that moment I am not really thinking right.

  • what do you think about this item?
  • Do you honestly think I need it?
  • is it worth the price?

Simple questions like this asked to the right person would save you a lot of headache and help you get your act together.

5. Set a day in a month, two months, or even a day in a year to splurge on yourself

I know the blog is about how to stick to the budget, but Hey Treating yourself with some nice items isn’t bad after all as long as you do not go broke trying to do that.

Do not be too hard on yourself, so while you get to save more money while sticking to your budget you can also buy some extra items… Get to enjoy the money you have worked hard to earn.

This is beneficial because once you do it, the urge to get some not so necessary items would reduce (or maybe not lol).

6. Visit Szaleo.pl They have the most affordable items. 

I got my scarf and cute bag from their store. spend your money wisely..

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Enjoying the weather and keeping myself warm with this beautiful scarf and bag
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Rainy Day but nothing a scarf cant solve

Sticking to the budget

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see yourself differently

6 STEPS ON HOW TO DEAL WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM

Today’s topic is one that was suggested by an amazing friend and sister, I felt so honored when she asked me to write on this so shout out to you girl and every other person who is reading this.

Truth be told I have never had to deal with low self esteem, but I have been around people who had to battle with this issue and I know it is not a good place to be.

I am not an expert, but I would like to think some of this tips am about to share would help whoever is reading this and hopefully you break out of that shell and be who you really want to be and who God has intended for you to be.

So how does one deal with low self esteem???

  1. Identify the cause of the issue
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Identifying the root of the matter

Ask your self why you feel the way that you do? think back to when you first started feeling like you weren’t good enough, Did someone say something to you which you just couldn’t let go of? I believe if you are able to identify the cause of the issue then you would be able to move on to the next phase which is.

2. Time to face the issue no more hiding

So you have identified the issue, it is time to face it… your issue might be that you feel  you are not beautiful enough or someone called you ugly and you have carried that with you for as long as you know, so much so that you cannot look at yourself in the mirror……. It is time for you to look at yourself in the mirror and see just how perfect you are.

The first week would be very difficult but don’t quit take it one step at a time begin to love every bit of yourself, you can begin with your eyes and then move to your nose, your ears….. with time you would begin to see how whole you are.

maybe you Stammer and you cant even stand your own voice talk more of talking to people, begin by talking to yourself… do it daily learn to love your voice and the way you sound, try to read around those you love and gradually you would see a change.

If you get so nervous when you are around people, I mean who doesn’t? we all feel that way or have felt that way at some point, I would say be around people who make you feel comfortable and as you begin to build up your confidence you can decide to move on to a bigger crowd.

3. Believe in yourself stop doubting your capabilities

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Believe

I know low self esteem can be so bad that it puts so much fear into you and makes you believe you cannot do anything, or you are not good enough…. That is a lie, you are enough and no one is as unique as you are it is time to let go of that fear…

just take a second to think right now , what is that thing you have failed to do because you were scared and you did not feel good about yourself? Go on and give it a try, it might not go well the first time but that shouldn’t stop you from trying. Your next move might just be an answer to someone’s prayer so what is stopping you?

4. Stop talking down on yourself

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You might not feel good about yourself, but it is not a reason for you to talk yourself down, as a matter of fact there should be no reason whatsoever for anyone to talk down themselves.

If someone tries to tell you how good for nothing you are, please quickly shut them up. let them know God does not and would never create anything that is not good, you have been created in Gods  image and you are only allowed to speak life over yourself

Carry yourself and see yourself the way God sees you….Time to think and speak differently…

Have you spoken life over yourself today?

5. Don’t try to fit into the status quo

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You are unique

Have you ever thought for a moment that maybe you are having self esteem issues because you are trying to fit in too hard into where you aren’t even meant to be in the first place or you are trying to be who God has not intended for you to be?

It is ok to be different, you can make a change by standing out… God has given each of us something different from the other person, stop looking to fit into other peoples way of life and ignore what God has given to you.

Create your own path

6. Be thankful

When you are thankful for the life you have and contented with what God has given to you, there would be no room for sadness… you would literally see everyday as a miracle.

Let thankfulness be a way of life for you

What are you thankful for today?

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Breathe

BREATHE!!! LIFE IS SHORT

I am sure most of you are conversant with this Saying about how short life is, but how many of us really take out time to ponder on it and act on it?

This past month has been a really stressful one for me and I did a lot of thinking…. I was becoming too stressed out and it was affecting me in all areas.

I had to call myself to order and I must Say the major thing which brought me healing was prayer. So outside of Prayer what did I do?

  1. I told myself I had only one life to live and if God Forbid something tragic happens to me, life would go on… it wouldn’t stop because of me.
  2. I worried Less, I stopped thinking about what would happen the next moment or the next day.. I started focusing on the present.
  3. I took out time to breathe and to appreciate what I have in front of me and the life which I currently have.
  4. I complained less.. the way I complained this past month hmmm I don’t know how those I was venting to managed to cope with me, but I guess that is why God Placed them in my life to be there as a support. I started being more appreciative and thankful, it was one of the best decisions I made
  5. I learnt and am still learning to see the good and positive in every thing. some days nothing makes sense but I think about something positive and if I cant find any, I thank God I am alive.
  6. I faced that which I was afraid of and was stressing me out…. I saw it as a challenge and I was willing to conquer it.

Life is short, I know things wont always go smoothly but you can make something beautiful out of the most stressful situation. live don’t just exist, take things one step at a time. if you need to go out and just inhale the air do it, Listen to your body, know when to stop and when to continue, laugh more, surround your self with positive people and above all be your biggest encourager.

This blog would not be complete if I do not acknowledge God, God Got me through the toughest of times, I prayed and each time I did, I felt peace, being in His presence was always refreshing…. Do not hesitate to talk to your maker He is the best friend you can have.

BREATHE!!! BREATHE!!! BREATHE!!!

Some pictures I took during the Week. enjoying the beautiful life God has given me.

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Enjoying the sun with my Browless face
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Breathe and count your Blessings
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I am not always glammed up makeup free….

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Never outdated

6 THINGS THAT WILL NEVER BE OUTDATED (A MUST READ)

These Tips I am about to Share are what I call my Golden Rule…. They are golden because they do not discriminate they are for all ages, nationality, race, size you name it.

We live in a world where people are so concerned about what is trendy, what is fashionable, the in thing… but we can get so carried away that we forget about things that really matter which is why I am here to remind everyone.

NO 1: Good Manners

Have you been around someone who looks so well put together on the outside, but the very moment you come close to them you realize how bad their manners are? that is really a turn off. Beauty will fade, trends will come and go but having good manners would never be outdated.

Be polite, throw that arrogant attitude out of the door.

Apologize when you are on the wrong.

Be thankful, appreciate the good that has been done to you/for you.

Do not be one to start a fight……

you cannot buy good manners with money, it begins with you and your desire to make a positive impact.

NO 2: A seasoned speech

I love the Chapter of the bible which says let your speech be seasoned with grace.

Do not be one to talk others down, don’t be the one people run to when they are about to Gossip, stop putting people down by the words you say to them.

if you have an advice for someone say it in a way that it doesn’t turn out to be offensive and be sure you are giving such a person an advice because you truly care about them not because you are being shady.

Think before you speak do not think after you finish speaking…

NO 3: COMPASSION

You do not see someone going through a hard time and you ignore, you feel you are not the one going through that difficulty so why should you care…. Trust me life can happen to anyone… Show some Compassion, render as much help as you can and lift such people up in Prayers .

Do not laugh at the failures of others.

I Know some people Can really get on our nerves but two wrongs cannot make a right so wishing such people bad is not the way to Go. you and I can do better….

No 4: HUMILITY

Did you know so many people have missed out on important life changing moments/opportunities because they were proud?

When I say be humble I am not saying allow people take advantage of you, of course you need to know when to draw the line…

I am saying stop feeling you are better than anyone else.

Things  cannot always go your way, other peoples ideas and suggestions also matter.

Stop looking down on others and seeing them like Trash.

Be teachable, you can learn from a toddler keep your heart open.

My dad would always say if you stay humble, you would go far in life.

NO 5: A FOCUSED MIND

Avoid Distractions, you do not start a project and not complete it.

Be determined to see the end result of that project you have started

Do not forget every successful and big thing you see today began from a heart which was determined to see the end product of their goal and vision.

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GROWING UP …LESSONS LEARNT

Growing up is not easy and is definitely a decision one has to make…

On todays blog I would be sharing some things I have learnt in the past  but which have become even real to me since I graduated medical school. This is not to put fear into anyone but to prepare you for what is ahead.

From the topic you can tell I am about to talk about growing up A.K.A adulting. I would be very honest with you guys, life became real to me getting towards the end of medical school and it became even more real after medical school. All of a sudden I had this urge to want to fend for myself I did not want to be that daughter who was still asking for money from her parents, I wanted to be more responsible for myself.

I had never had a job or worked before in my twenty something years of existence, how would taking care of myself be possible if I did not even know how to craft a Resume talk more of seeking for a job?…. At some point I gave up on the idea I couldn’t bear the thought of going through all of this stress, growing up/adulting wasn’t as easy as I thought it would be.

Why did I have to wait this long? too many reasons which I really do not want to go into so I do not bore you guys, Here are a list of things I have learnt in this new phase of my life and my little advice to you reading this post.

 

1) GROWING UP IS NOT EASY BUT IT IS  WORTH IT:

Please do not let anyone trick you into thinking as you get older things will get easier that is a big lie…. if you have been blessed enough to not have to work for anything, well good for you but don’t forget there is work to be done on yourself as an individual. Money cannot buy you character, resilience, happiness E.T.C

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work on Yourself

2) PREPARE YOURSELF:

 Like I said earlier, growing up isn’t easy so now that you know, the next thing to do is to prepare yourself.

Get your mind ready. I knew where I wanted to go and what I wanted to do after graduation.

I had planned all this two years prior but It did not stop me from being  stressed.

you can imagine if there was no plan at all that would have been double stress.

Knowing the goal ahead of me pushes me to be more resilient everyday.

whether you are in or out of school, have a goal and prepare yourself.

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Preparation meets opportunity = Success

3) GET READY TO MOVE OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE:

If you are not willing to leave your comfort zone then growing up is not for you.

I remember as a kid, each time I fell ill my dad would always say

it is because I am growing up so my body is trying to adjust to the Growth.

Once we are used to a particular lifestyle, transitioning isn’t easy it would take a lot of discipline to make adjustments.

leaving our comfort zone can mean a whole lot of things.

It could mean having to sleep less and waking up early,

Cutting off some people out of our life,

praying more,

Being more accountable to God and to ourselves,

writing this blog late at night because that is the only time I have. It will not be easy but it will be worth it.

Growing Up
No more Comfort Zones

4) YOU MIGHT WANT TO QUIT: like I stated earlier, I thought about quitting but thank God for wise counsel the amazing people I have in my life and constantly reminding myself about what is ahead of me. Behind every success story there is another story that most people do not know about. Hang in there.

 

5) YOU WILL HEAR A LOT OF NO’S: People will turn you down but it is ok . I believe the naysayers give room for the right opportunities to come. Never you feel you are not capable enough or good enough BECAUSE YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH.

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Do not let the disappointments stop you

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Celebrate and embrace your small victories

SMALL VICTORIES ARE WORTH CELEBRATING

why should i celebrate something small? instead of celebrating my small victories i would rather wait until i land my hands on something Big…. Do you fall into the category of people who make such statements? if you don’t i am happy to hear that if you however fall into this category i believe you can learn something today.

For the first time in my life i played volleyball, one would think i am a pro at this sport due to my height and long limbs, but unfortunately i know nothing about volley ball. I am really happy that my church was thoughtful enough to organize an outing like this one because it gave me an opportunity to want to try something new.

I had no idea on how the game was going to turn out, was i going to make a fool of myself on the court or come back home with a broken limb? so many thoughts filled my head but backing out wasn’t an option after all it was my one chance to make history and  add an activity to my empty list of hobbies.

I did terribly on the court, i caught the ball instead of throwing it back to the opposing team, i was just doing the total opposite of everything.

There came the one moment that changed everything, i threw the ball like i was supposed to and to cut the long story short, our team won a point. you can imagine my excitement over that one point, i kept on screaming i did it… i did it…it was as though i had won a gold medal.

so someone reading this post is saying ” your team won just a single point” and so? it is not a big deal

That little victory opened me up to something new. we always ignore our small victories, we would rather wait for the big win. we get too occupied trying to accomplish big things meanwhile we forget about those little milestones which we have been able to achieve.

Every big thing you see today started small, the strongest trees were once tiny little seeds, that billion dollar company was once an idea, that cute child was once a sperm. Stop beating up yourself because you failed at something or you see people living the life you have been dreaming about and you automatically see yourself as a failure…. do not forget every individual is unique and our journeys are different. learn to embrace and appreciate your small victories.

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No big steps without baby steps

In the real sense those little accomplishments are actually not little because without them, there would be no room for bigger opportunities. i remember my first bog post  lord knows my heart still beats fast each time i think about all the things i went through before i finally published it, today i can gladly say without my first blog post i would not even be writing this.

I might never get to play volleyball again and even if i do, my first win would always be my motivation.

look around you, enjoy all that you see, live in the moment cherish the little moments, appreciate the baby steps because they are leading you into great things.

SMALL VICTORIES = BIGGER ACHIEVEMENTS.

Have an amazing day ahead.

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HOW I DEAL WITH DISCOURAGEMENT

Lately I have been feeling a bit discouraged and having to question myself a bit more. Few days ago I found out that apart from talking to God about how I was feeling, there was something that strengthened me even more and that was encouraging someone else. What I did whenever I began feeling discouraged was to call up someone or send a message of encouragement. Of course I might not have an idea of what that person is going through or they might not be going through anything but even those who aren’t going through any kind of challenge still need to be told they are doing well and they are appreciated. One of the most difficult things to do is to encourage someone when you are also having your issues, I used to be that person that would go silent the whole day whenever I was feeling overwhelmed but I guess God has His way of working in us and grooming us daily.

This exercise is something I started doing recently and I know God was trying to let me know that even when you are discouraged you can be a shoulder for someone to lean on, Beauty can come out of darkness.

I find this to be very therapeutic because whenever you encourage someone or I encourage someone I also feel like I am talking to myself and I become strengthened gradually.

What do you do whenever you feel discouraged? I would really love to hear from you.

Have an amazing weekend

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MY GRADUATION FROM MED SCHOOL!!!

Please read everything and don’t worry I have inserted pictures.

2nd of July 2018 was a really special day for me because I graduated medical school and I officially became a doctor, I still feel like I am dreaming and feel really weird being addressed with the title Doctor. Med school was really challenging but in all it’s been one of the best experience of my life.

To the king of all kings and my Heavenly Father.

I owe all of my gratitude to you my creator my Heavenly Father Jesus who knew me before I was conceived and had a plan for me even before the beginning of time you are indeed the master planner. You provided for my parents from the beginning and there was never a time I got stuck, you always believed in me and been/still my best friend, you never begin a project without completing it you are extremely dependable you are everything to me Thank you for adopting me as your own I cannot imagine my life without you God I would be a wreck. Words cannot express how grateful I am to you lord but I know you see my heart and you know how humbled and grateful I am to you for bringing me this far I love you and you alone deserves all of the accolades and all of my praise.

To my dad.

Daddy God knew you would be the best father for me that was why he sent me into your life. Every time I tell you I appreciate all you have done, they are not mere words they are real. Even when you get angry or when the burden becomes too much for you, you never stop listening you always listen to me and make sure I am comfortable. I will keep making you proud this is just the beginning of greater and better things. I love you Daddy.

To my mum ( Mummy H)

You are one woman who sees the best in everything, you always push me and encourage me you never see anything as a limitation. Thank you so much for being a backbone to Daddy thank you for your prayers thank you for always making me laugh and I am so glad to be going through this journey with you. I love you.

To my mum

Thank you for birthing me, you make me want to be a better person for my unborn kids, my husband and myself. You are such a strong woman, you are one of the reasons I am where I am today and I truly appreciate you. Thank you for all of the sacrifices Thank you for praying constantly for me. God bless you mum I love you.

To my brother

I can’t ask for a better big brother, you are truly amazing. I love you.

To my pastors

Pastor Chidi, pastor Eve, pastor Matthew your impact in my life is just beyond words. Thank you so much I love you all.

To my beautiful cousin Ruth.

My gist partner, my friend, my sister, my prayer warrior….. Thank you sisi i love you.

To dr.Amure omotayo.

My encourager, My play partner my best friend… going through this journey with you has been wow. I am so excited about what God is doing in you and through you. I love you.

To my group mates, to David iluore, to Ruth jadu, all of you who know me personally and everyone whom I crossed paths with.

Meeting you guys was never a mistake, God planned it out from the very beginning. I would really miss you all, I have learnt a lot from every single one of you and seeing you all at the point where you are now is such a blessing. May God continue to use every single one of you to better the lives of those you come in contact with. I love you.

My final words: God is the master planner he would never give up on you so stop thinking about quitting God has got your back.

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