THE FOUR TYPES OF LISTENERS.

We all want to be heard but a vast majority of us aren’t good at paying attention to others. Few days ago I was thinking about the progress I have made when it comes to listening, and I decided to write on four major groups of listeners based on my experience.

Category one

The nonchalant listener : They absolutely don’t care about what the other party is saying, the words go into one ear and leave through the other. They don’t put themselves in the shoes of the speaker. This type of listener is never willing to make a change, because they feel the speaker isn’t worth listening to. They are close minded and have no compassion.

Category two

The ones who listen to react: you hear statements like “just keep talking “ from this type of listeners, because they already have a heap of words waiting to dish out on the speaker. They quote you word by word and counter every thing you say, they are always on the defensive. They can never be wrong. Sadly most ladies fall into this group. Once upon a time I used to be this type of listener but I have made progress and I am still making progress.

Category three

The physically present but mentally absent: This ones are here but at the same time not here, meaning while the speaker is speaking, they are thinking of something else. They might really want to listen but their minds are always preoccupied. They find it difficult to engage their minds, and they never remember what was talked about.

Category four

The ones who are genuinely interested in what the speaker is saying : Even when the speaker isn’t making much “sense” this ones try to make sense out of it. They listen with their eyes, ears, and heart. They care and are willing to make corrections because they always put themselves in the speakers shoes. They see from different angles not just from their own point of view.

Wouldn’t it be absolutely amazing if we could all fall into the fourth category? It all begins with a little bold step. You and I can do better.

REMEMBER TWO WRONGS CANNOT MAKE A RIGHT.

Have a blessed week ahead.

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THE ONE THAT MADE A DIFFERENCE

Today’s blog is dedicated to Mr O. I am sure you are wondering why I am dedicating this blog to you. For sometime now, I have been putting up offers for a business and it’s not been going the way I want it to, infact most of the offers have been declined. Earlier this week I got an email from one of them and it wasn’t a good news, I told Mr O about it and he said something amazingly beautiful to me, he said THEY REJECTED A STAR. I believe God used you Mr O to speak such a timely word to me and I just want to say thank you. That word is one I will never forget, you have no idea what that statement did to me. That statement reminded me of the way God sees me, he sees me as a star and whether I am rejected or accepted I will keep shining because that is what stars do.

I also learnt from this one statement that I can always be a Mr O to somebody, and so can you. Be the one that will always bring calm in the midst of chaos.

Do you have a Mr or Mrs O in your life? Or has someone been a Mr O to you? Let them know you appreciate them

I love and appreciate you Mr O. Xoxo

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7 FRIUTS YOU SHOULD EAT IN SUMMER AND WHY

Watermelons

Did you know watermelons are 91% water? Well if you didn’t know now you know, which is why you need to seize every opportunity you get this summer to consume as much watermelons as you can. They keep you super hydrated and full. They can be added to your fruit salad or better still blended and taken in the juiced form. The seeds can also be roasted and eaten as a snack. If you want your skin looking radiant and you don’t consume much water, try watermelons. Are you also looking for ways to shed off some inches off that waist line? Try watermelons because due to their high water content they keep you full so regardless of the amount you consume you are safe.

Cucumbers

Another fruit which contains much water ( about 97%). This is a hot season so you need as much water as you can get. Cucumbers also contain essential nutrients like vitamin k Which is a group of structurally similar, fat-soluble vitamins that the human body requires for complete synthesis of certain proteins that are prerequisites for blood coagulation, and which the body also needs for controlling binding of calcium in bones and other tissues. Cucumbers are also a healthy choice for weight loss.

Peaches

This is one of my favorites because it contains a good amount of fiber which aids in digestion It is also a good source of vitamins C, A, E, and K, among other nutrients. The antioxidant vitamin C, when eaten in its natural form (in whole foods such as peaches) or applied topically, can reduce wrinkles, improve overall skin texture and help to fight skin damage caused by the sun and pollution. Vitamin C also plays a vital role in the formation of collagen, the support system of your skin.

Strawberries

This is another summer fruit which shouldn’t be ignored, they are usually very pricy during the winter period so what better time to have them if not now. This juicy fruit contain a relatively high amount of potassium and are recommended to those with high blood pressure to help negate the effects of sodium in the body. A low potassium intake is just as big a risk factor for developing high blood pressure as a high sodium intake. If you struggle with constipation strawberries will be a great choice for you due to their high fiber content.

Cherries

I love me some cherries, they are one of the reasons I anticipate summer, unfortunately they are only in season for about 2 months. Did you know cherries contain natural melatonin? Cherries contain natural melatonin, which is a powerful antioxidant and free radical scavenger that helps “cool down” excess inflammation and associated oxidative stress. It also plays a vital role in sleep and bodily regeneration. They are also a great source of fiber, vitamin c,carotenoids, and anthocyanin.

Nectarines

they are quite similar to peaches in appearance except for the lack of fuzziness on the skin, which is there on peaches. Nectarine is a luscious nutrient-dense and low-calorie fruit. Nectarines are excellent sources of potassium and other minerals such as phosphorous, magnesium, iron, zinc and calcium, without any harmful cholesterol. Nectarine promotes detoxification by preventing the binding of toxins to the colon walls and by flushing harmful elements out of the body.

Tomatoes

Yes I regard tomatoes as a fruit rather than a vegetable, to each his own. They can be eaten raw in salads, used as a sauce for different recipes and even taken as juice 🥤.The water content of tomatoes is around 95%. The other 5% consist mainly carbohydrates and fiber. Tomatoes are a good source of several vitamins and minerals, such as vitamin C, potassium, vitamin K and folate.

Health is wealth, when you eat good you feel good.

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A MESSAGE TO MY PASTOR

I came to TPH ( the perfecting house) at a phase in my life where I needed more, I needed a change, I was at my breaking point and I needed a place to worship, a place which felt like home. The feeling I had the very moment I stepped into TPH was one I had not felt in a long time, there was just this aura of joy and everyone looked happy. It instantly felt like home.

When I got home that day I couldn’t stop thinking about my experience. Few months later I joined the perfecting house and I must say there is no place I would rather be. Pastor Chidi you have been more than a shoulder to lean on, you have been a rock to me and every other member of perfecting house, you take out time every week out of your busy schedule to have a one on one session with every one of us, in just a few months that I have known you, I have learnt so much, more than I did in the past years. No one ever comes in contact with you without being changed, you just have a way of rubbing off your positive energy on people.

Thank you pastor Chidi for genuinely caring for your sheep, it is as a result of the relationship you have with every one of us that perfecting house is so filled with that Aura of joy and happiness which everyone talks about the first time they come into church.

Thank you pastor Chidi for always encouraging me and pushing me to do better.

Thank you for always praying for me and seeing the best in me and everyone else.

Thank you for getting to know us for yourself and not based on what someone else have told you.

This writeup will not be complete without talking about your wife Sister Naomi like we all call her, she has really been a sister, it’s so amazing how much she knows the name of every single one of us including the ones she doesn’t get to see often. Her smile just brightens the whole place and I bless God for her life. Thank you both for making yourselves available.

As you mark 35 today pastor Chidi, eyes have not seen neither have ears heard all that God has planned for you. I have so much to write but I will stop here, my heart is really full of gratitude to God for connecting me to you, sister Naomi, pastor Eve and perfecting house in general.

Have an amazing birthday celebration, I am looking forward to more birthday’s in the future. Cheers 🥂!!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!🎈🎉🎁🎂🎊

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A STRUGGLE

I Will check up on her later, I will do the laundry later, I will do the Assignment later, I will call home later, let me quickly finish this episode of Grey’s Anatomy and I will begin studying. The episode ends and she goes wow 😮 that was interesting I think I should watch the next episode, she stands up and makes herself a bowl of Cereal (the mouth should also be kept busy while the eyes is working). Two hours later she says to herself I can’t study now I am too tired let me take a quick Nap, I will study when I wake up. Eventually she wakes up but it’s late and because she spent the important part of her day doing things which weren’t so important in other words she spent the day procrastinating, she has to stay up very late studying. This person is me. Continue reading “A STRUGGLE”

WHAT IF?

Hello Beautiful people….

Thank God it’s Friday , welcome back to my blog. Today we are gonna reflect and ask ourselves  a lot of WHAT IF’s. Hopefully this rekindles something inside of you.

• What if Sir Timothy John Berners-Lee who is best known as the inventor of the World Wide Web gave up on his idea or didn’t even try?

• What if Thomas Alva Edison best known as the inventor of the light bulb didn’t make a move?

• What if Alexander Graham Bell who is credited with patenting the first practical telephone did nothing?

• What if Charles Babbage the man who originated the concept of a programmable computer also Considered as the “father of the computer” allowed his idea to just slide?

• What if The Wright brothers,who are generally credited with inventing, building, and flying the world’s first successful airplane didn’t try?

• What if cars were never invented?, books never written, no Refrigerators, no microwaves, no televisions, no sophisticated machines to make farming easier,…… Continue reading “WHAT IF?”

ASSUMPTIONS

Hello Beautiful people……

The week is coming to an end and I felt I should share something I learnt this week as you have read from the title, today we will be talking about assumptions. Earlier this week I had a meeting with my spiritual father we talked about a lot of things but one of the things he said which stood out for me was the fact that he said he doesn’t assume things, he gets to know for himself what a thing or person is really about before drawing conclusions. ( of course he wasn’t always like that but he built that character overtime). That got me thinking during the week and wanting to make some changes concerning the way I view things, and this topic was birthed.

Have you ever made an assumption? If you have what impact did it have on you? Please leave your comments down below and share your story.. While you are thinking about the question let us quickly look up the meaning of assumption.

noun
1.
a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof.

every single one of us have or has assumed something either about somebody, a place, a culture, a religious belief, sexuality, occupation, food e.t.c.

I am about to share a very embarrassing story, while writing on this topic I had a picture of that incident I still feel bad about it but hopefully this story touches someone and makes you double check things before making a conclusion.

I really like going to the gym and there was this time my partner and I decided we should get some protein powder to help with our muscle growth, but we kept on hearing about how some people weren’t reacting so well to it and some of them even had some kind of rash all over their body (an allergic reaction) as a result of the protein powder so we both decided not to get the powder. About two months later, We started going to another gym and there was this guy we met there, we have never talked, or even come so close to him. He had some things on his body that looked like spots from a previous rash well we couldn’t really tell because we had never come so close to him , because that might have been awkward. But each time we were at the gym somehow we always ended up talking about that so called rash and how it might have been related to the use of a protein powder. one of this days at the gym I became very curious and went close to him, it turned out he didn’t have spots or rashes on his body, he was just really hairy and from a distance it looked like spots.. I felt really terrible for making an assumption and jumping into a conclusion which I absolutely had no facts on.

We live in a world where people practically live their lives based on assumptions.
It would make a big difference if we make a conscious decision to learn to know people for ourselves not just based on what we have heard, study about a country don’t just conclude a particular country and its citizens are bad just because you met one person who didn’t treat you right, don’t think someone doesn’t like you just because you greeted them and they didn’t give you a reply….and the list goes on.

I have made a lot of assumptions in my life and I am willing to make a change. Are you willing to make a change? It’s never too late to start…

Have a great weekend

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