HOW I DEAL WITH DISCOURAGEMENT

Lately I have been feeling a bit discouraged and having to question myself a bit more. Few days ago I found out that apart from talking to God about how I was feeling, there was something that strengthened me even more and that was encouraging someone else. What I did whenever I began feeling discouraged was to call up someone or send a message of encouragement. Of course I might not have an idea of what that person is going through or they might not be going through anything but even those who aren’t going through any kind of challenge still need to be told they are doing well and they are appreciated. One of the most difficult things to do is to encourage someone when you are also having your issues, I used to be that person that would go silent the whole day whenever I was feeling overwhelmed but I guess God has His way of working in us and grooming us daily.

This exercise is something I started doing recently and I know God was trying to let me know that even when you are discouraged you can be a shoulder for someone to lean on, Beauty can come out of darkness.

I find this to be very therapeutic because whenever you encourage someone or I encourage someone I also feel like I am talking to myself and I become strengthened gradually.

What do you do whenever you feel discouraged? I would really love to hear from you.

Have an amazing weekend

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MY GRADUATION FROM MED SCHOOL!!!

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2nd of July 2018 was a really special day for me because I graduated medical school and I officially became a doctor, I still feel like I am dreaming and feel really weird being addressed with the title Doctor. Med school was really challenging but in all it’s been one of the best experience of my life.

To the king of all kings and my Heavenly Father.

I owe all of my gratitude to you my creator my Heavenly Father Jesus who knew me before I was conceived and had a plan for me even before the beginning of time you are indeed the master planner. You provided for my parents from the beginning and there was never a time I got stuck, you always believed in me and been/still my best friend, you never begin a project without completing it you are extremely dependable you are everything to me Thank you for adopting me as your own I cannot imagine my life without you God I would be a wreck. Words cannot express how grateful I am to you lord but I know you see my heart and you know how humbled and grateful I am to you for bringing me this far I love you and you alone deserves all of the accolades and all of my praise.

To my dad.

Daddy God knew you would be the best father for me that was why he sent me into your life. Every time I tell you I appreciate all you have done, they are not mere words they are real. Even when you get angry or when the burden becomes too much for you, you never stop listening you always listen to me and make sure I am comfortable. I will keep making you proud this is just the beginning of greater and better things. I love you Daddy.

To my mum ( Mummy H)

You are one woman who sees the best in everything, you always push me and encourage me you never see anything as a limitation. Thank you so much for being a backbone to Daddy thank you for your prayers thank you for always making me laugh and I am so glad to be going through this journey with you. I love you.

To my mum

Thank you for birthing me, you make me want to be a better person for my unborn kids, my husband and myself. You are such a strong woman, you are one of the reasons I am where I am today and I truly appreciate you. Thank you for all of the sacrifices Thank you for praying constantly for me. God bless you mum I love you.

To my brother

I can’t ask for a better big brother, you are truly amazing. I love you.

To my pastors

Pastor Chidi, pastor Eve, pastor Matthew your impact in my life is just beyond words. Thank you so much I love you all.

To my beautiful cousin Ruth.

My gist partner, my friend, my sister, my prayer warrior….. Thank you sisi i love you.

To dr.Amure omotayo.

My encourager, My play partner my best friend… going through this journey with you has been wow. I am so excited about what God is doing in you and through you. I love you.

To my group mates, to David iluore, to Ruth jadu, all of you who know me personally and everyone whom I crossed paths with.

Meeting you guys was never a mistake, God planned it out from the very beginning. I would really miss you all, I have learnt a lot from every single one of you and seeing you all at the point where you are now is such a blessing. May God continue to use every single one of you to better the lives of those you come in contact with. I love you.

My final words: God is the master planner he would never give up on you so stop thinking about quitting God has got your back.

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LOVE LIKE A CHILD

I had a really special experience on the 27th of June 2018. I had just left the main building of my school, and I was walking towards the metro to go see a friend of mine whom I had an appointment with. As I approached the metro I saw this cute little boy about 2 years old he was walking alongside his Dad eating his ice cream on one hand and holding a rose flower on the other hand he seemed to be enjoying himself. Suddenly he started walking towards me , I smiled at him and thought he was just carried away by the sweetness of the ice cream but to my surprise he wasn’t he got closer to me and handed me the flower. At that moment my heart just melted I said спасибо which means thank you in Russian and he smiled and continued walking. I looked up at the Dad and he had this big smile on his face I could tell that was a really proud Daddy moment for him, he commended his son and we both walked away.

As I walked away my heart was so filled with joy, I could feel my uterus and ovaries leaping for joy ( lol I am a sucker for kids) I had to stop and take pictures of the flower.

I began asking myself questions like

1. Why me a random black girl walking on a road full of Ukrainians?

2. Did his Dad ask him to specifically give the flowers to me when he saw me approaching ?

3. Did he just feel like handing over the flowers to me.

4. Was he tired of holding the flowers because it was getting in the way between him and his ice cream.

5. What else can be cuter than this little boy.

6. Does he do this often.

My answers to this questions according to order

1. Because children just love purely and truly, they don’t see color, race, gender e.t.c no wonder Jesus said don’t stop the little children from coming to me.

2. I don’t think so, the little boy just did what his heart asked him to do. From my experience you can’t force most kids to do what they don’t want to do.

3. Yes he just felt like.

4. No he wasn’t, he looked very happy holding the flower and his ice cream.

5. I can’t imagine.

6. Yes I would love to think that, because clearly he has a dad who is teaching him how to properly treat a lady and relate with people.

What I learnt from this experience

1. Love does not discriminate.

2. One act of kindness can change a persons life forever ( this is an experience I will never forget).

3. As a parent you have a lot of influence on your kids don’t screw it up.

4. My love for people doesn’t have to diminish because I grew up or because I was hurt. God’s Love never runs out on me and so does my love for people.

5. We all have the capacity to make a difference.

6. Be the change you want to see.

Conclusion

The same way I kept on asking myself questions and looking for reasons as to why me of all people was handed a flower is the same way most of us ask God questions whenever he does something for us. We feel like we have to do something for God before he does something for us and we forget His love for us is not dependent on our works,age,sex,race, you name it… trust me no amount of works can fulfill Gods standard so just learn to embrace his love and lean on him. Click here to read on an exceptional love story.

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Have a wonderful weekend.

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A PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT TO LADIES.

Dear ladies, it is ok to compliment another lady, it is not a crime to see something good on another lady and actually appreciate it, it is ok to be kind to another lady, you won’t die if you give a good advice to your fellow lady, it is not weird for you to walk up to another lady and tell her she is beautiful. Please stop putting other women down, stop the body shaming. Life is not about competition you will get to your destination at your God given time so stop thinking you are in a competition with the other lady next door.

My dear ladies it is totally ok to support the other persons goals Do not feel you are more important than the other lady who just walked passed you or your colleague at your work place for we are all dust. Instead of putting others down and rejoicing over their misfortune how about you pray for them, ladies be a shoulder for your fellow lady to lean on. Stop being mean, stop the gossips, stop being angry or envious over ones success, do not see an opportunity and try to hide it from the other person whom you know would really need some help. Stop being selfish for once think of the other persons feelings.

I have been on the road on countless occasions and I realized the ladies are the ones who would not want to stop for a fellow lady to cross the road ( I might be wrong but it is just my experience). Please let us show more empathy to each other, we keep talking about woman power but in reality we hate each other and if we must move forward this has to stop. You see guys talk to each other even if they are just meeting for the first time but you hardly ever see us ladies do that, we stare at each other eye to eye and can’t even utter a word as simple as Hi and if one eventually does say Hi the other pretends like she heard nothing even if she did. We do better when we are united and I believe we can do better if we set our minds to do it. Please stop with the so called “clique”, because someone is not in your clique you don’t see the need to be friendly? You look down on others and feel you know better Am sorry but that makes you ignorant.

GOD CREATED YOU AND I AS A RESULT OF HIS LOVE SO RECIPROCATE THAT LOVEBY SHOWING LOVE TO OTHERS. CHANGE BEGINS WITH YOU!!!

Have an amazing week ahead.

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TIRED OF LIFE AND THINKING OF QUITTING

Dear Reader what failure are you dealing with at the moment? Are you at the verge of quitting? you are frustrated, you feel like nothing good can come out of you, Those you started with or even those you started before are already ahead of you, you feel like you just can’t seem to get anything right, The whole world is against you, everyone is secretly talking about you, No one can possibly understand what you are going through, you are depressed, you have actually thought about ending your life, you just want to go into hiding and not be seen, you are not good enough, No one can love a woman or man like you, you have to constantly keep proving yourself, you can’t trust anyone because those you trusted in the past disappointed you, you don’t know what next, God feels so far away, you don’t know where the next tuition/rent will come from, you see a pattern replicating itself, you are lost, you are defeated, No one ever amounted to anything in your family and you feel you are not any different from them, everyone is better than you, you have no gift, you are just useless…… whatever it is stop Right there!!! 

GOD SAID HE LOVES YOU, YOU ARE THE APPLE OF HIS EYES, HE HAS CALLED YOU FOR THE NATIONS, STOP BEATING UP YOURSELF, STOP THE PITY PARTY, GET UP!!!

Yes you have failed but it is not the end of the world, No successful person got to the point where they are now by quitting and feeling sorry for themselves.

1st Samuel chapter 30: 1-6 tells us about David and his men coming back home from war and finding out that the city had been burnt down and all of their women and kids had been captured by the Amalekites. You can imagine being a president of a nation and coming back home from a journey just to find out all the women and kids of your country have been kidnapped, Think of the pressure that will be on you , you might even drop Dead. King David found himself in this exact situation and they all began to weep. The men of the land started plotting to kill David so that was ten times more pressure on David but the Bible accounts in the 6th verse that

Further, David was greatly distressed because the people spoke of stoning him, for all of them were embittered, each man for his sons and daughters. But David felt strengthened and encouraged in the Lord his God.1st Samuel 30:6

Wow David felt strengthened and encouraged in the lord. I realized from this verse that making a conscious decision and effort to hold on to God and His word is really vital because there are times when life will hit you hard, what will you do ? no one encouraged David, they all had their issues and same thing goes to us while you are going through a hard time others are also battling with their issues and the encouragement or support you need from them might not come. So I ask again what will you do? David had to encourage himself in the lord meaning there is an encouragement that man cannot bring, it can only be found in God. When all else fades God is the only thing which stands firm and sure.

Do not be discouraged, be encouraged, Do not fear, you are a success, you are not a failure, you are more than enough, you can do all things with Christ by your side,you are a victor not a victim.

YOU CANNOT GIVE UP NOW, REMEMBER GOD IS JUST A PRAYER AWAY.

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Have a blessed Day ahead

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DEALING WITH THE PRESSURE TO CONFORM

P.s this message is to everyone and not restricted to a particular race, age or sex.

I got a message from a random person on Facebook two weeks ago, He is a citizen of the country where I reside, I would not want to go into so much details about the conversation we had, but I will let you guys in about the part of the conversation that really got to me and which prompted today’s post. He said he liked girls of color ( the black ones to be precise) but the “problem” is that most of them would not want to have sex with him or the natives of the country. I became curious to know why their not giving in to his demands was a problem and he gave me an answer that shocked me. He said this girls are not little children and by the way they are not in their home country they are in Europe and so they should conform to the European way of life( those were his exact words).

I made him understand people have different upbringings and belief system so being in a foreign land shouldn’t make one loose their senses all because they want to conform. Honestly after all of the conversation with this person I started thinking, for a moment I felt like a proud parent, I was so happy there were still people who were standing and still holding on to their values but then again reality struck me, I was reminded that as much as there are those who are not giving in, we still have people who are not strong or bold enough to stand up for themselves all because they don’t want to be ridiculed or seen as weird.

In our world today the very moment you don’t conform, you become automatically castigated, people tag you as the weirdo or the boring person or one who doesn’t know how to enjoy life. Some go as far as saying this is not the 1900’s and Jesus will understand as if God’s word changes overtime. My Dear reader God’s word is still the same it cannot be added to or subtracted from.

There is a pressure to conform and we encounter this in our everyday life, in our schools, higher institutions, jobs,social media and the list continues. If for some reason you decided to follow the crowd and go with the flow, it is never too late to redirect your step, I have fallen so many times in my life but God had his way of always bringing me back to him. So let him.

This is my message to you reading this text, do not be afraid to stand up for what you believe in as long as it is in line with God’s word. It is ok to be the weirdo, it is ok to be tagged as boring, most of this people who castigate you aren’t adding any value to your life anyway so you have nothing to loose. Do not confirm to the worlds standards, we have only one role model and that is our lord and savior Jesus Christ and He is the only one we pledge our allegiance to. Remember when jesus was on earth He was hated by so many because he was doing Gods will and it was so weird for the rest which was why they sought to kill Him, so you are not different.

Never you think you are the only one who is standing up for something true or right ( by God’s standard of course). Remember when Elijah fled from jezebel because he was against the worship of an idol called Baal, and he told God he was the only one in all of Israel who had not bowed down to Baal, God quickly shut him up and told him he had 7,000 prophets who had not given in to the worship of that idol.

STAND TALL, STAND OUT, BE DIFFERENT, DO NOT CONFORM. GOD IS SO PROUD OF YOU AND HE IS WITH YOU EVEN IN THE FIRE.

Have a blessed weekend

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THE FOUR TYPES OF LISTENERS.

We all want to be heard but a vast majority of us aren’t good at paying attention to others. Few days ago I was thinking about the progress I have made when it comes to listening, and I decided to write on four major groups of listeners based on my experience.

Category one

The nonchalant listener : They absolutely don’t care about what the other party is saying, the words go into one ear and leave through the other. They don’t put themselves in the shoes of the speaker. This type of listener is never willing to make a change, because they feel the speaker isn’t worth listening to. They are close minded and have no compassion.

Category two

The ones who listen to react: you hear statements like “just keep talking “ from this type of listeners, because they already have a heap of words waiting to dish out on the speaker. They quote you word by word and counter every thing you say, they are always on the defensive. They can never be wrong. Sadly most ladies fall into this group. Once upon a time I used to be this type of listener but I have made progress and I am still making progress.

Category three

The physically present but mentally absent: This ones are here but at the same time not here, meaning while the speaker is speaking, they are thinking of something else. They might really want to listen but their minds are always preoccupied. They find it difficult to engage their minds, and they never remember what was talked about.

Category four

The ones who are genuinely interested in what the speaker is saying : Even when the speaker isn’t making much “sense” this ones try to make sense out of it. They listen with their eyes, ears, and heart. They care and are willing to make corrections because they always put themselves in the speakers shoes. They see from different angles not just from their own point of view.

Wouldn’t it be absolutely amazing if we could all fall into the fourth category? It all begins with a little bold step. You and I can do better.

REMEMBER TWO WRONGS CANNOT MAKE A RIGHT.

Have a blessed week ahead.

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THE ONE THAT MADE A DIFFERENCE

Today’s blog is dedicated to Mr O. I am sure you are wondering why I am dedicating this blog to you. For sometime now, I have been putting up offers for a business and it’s not been going the way I want it to, infact most of the offers have been declined. Earlier this week I got an email from one of them and it wasn’t a good news, I told Mr O about it and he said something amazingly beautiful to me, he said THEY REJECTED A STAR. I believe God used you Mr O to speak such a timely word to me and I just want to say thank you. That word is one I will never forget, you have no idea what that statement did to me. That statement reminded me of the way God sees me, he sees me as a star and whether I am rejected or accepted I will keep shining because that is what stars do.

I also learnt from this one statement that I can always be a Mr O to somebody, and so can you. Be the one that will always bring calm in the midst of chaos.

Do you have a Mr or Mrs O in your life? Or has someone been a Mr O to you? Let them know you appreciate them

I love and appreciate you Mr O. Xoxo

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7 FRIUTS YOU SHOULD EAT IN SUMMER AND WHY

Watermelons

Did you know watermelons are 91% water? Well if you didn’t know now you know, which is why you need to seize every opportunity you get this summer to consume as much watermelons as you can. They keep you super hydrated and full. They can be added to your fruit salad or better still blended and taken in the juiced form. The seeds can also be roasted and eaten as a snack. If you want your skin looking radiant and you don’t consume much water, try watermelons. Are you also looking for ways to shed off some inches off that waist line? Try watermelons because due to their high water content they keep you full so regardless of the amount you consume you are safe.

Cucumbers

Another fruit which contains much water ( about 97%). This is a hot season so you need as much water as you can get. Cucumbers also contain essential nutrients like vitamin k Which is a group of structurally similar, fat-soluble vitamins that the human body requires for complete synthesis of certain proteins that are prerequisites for blood coagulation, and which the body also needs for controlling binding of calcium in bones and other tissues. Cucumbers are also a healthy choice for weight loss.

Peaches

This is one of my favorites because it contains a good amount of fiber which aids in digestion It is also a good source of vitamins C, A, E, and K, among other nutrients. The antioxidant vitamin C, when eaten in its natural form (in whole foods such as peaches) or applied topically, can reduce wrinkles, improve overall skin texture and help to fight skin damage caused by the sun and pollution. Vitamin C also plays a vital role in the formation of collagen, the support system of your skin.

Strawberries

This is another summer fruit which shouldn’t be ignored, they are usually very pricy during the winter period so what better time to have them if not now. This juicy fruit contain a relatively high amount of potassium and are recommended to those with high blood pressure to help negate the effects of sodium in the body. A low potassium intake is just as big a risk factor for developing high blood pressure as a high sodium intake. If you struggle with constipation strawberries will be a great choice for you due to their high fiber content.

Cherries

I love me some cherries, they are one of the reasons I anticipate summer, unfortunately they are only in season for about 2 months. Did you know cherries contain natural melatonin? Cherries contain natural melatonin, which is a powerful antioxidant and free radical scavenger that helps “cool down” excess inflammation and associated oxidative stress. It also plays a vital role in sleep and bodily regeneration. They are also a great source of fiber, vitamin c,carotenoids, and anthocyanin.

Nectarines

they are quite similar to peaches in appearance except for the lack of fuzziness on the skin, which is there on peaches. Nectarine is a luscious nutrient-dense and low-calorie fruit. Nectarines are excellent sources of potassium and other minerals such as phosphorous, magnesium, iron, zinc and calcium, without any harmful cholesterol. Nectarine promotes detoxification by preventing the binding of toxins to the colon walls and by flushing harmful elements out of the body.

Tomatoes

Yes I regard tomatoes as a fruit rather than a vegetable, to each his own. They can be eaten raw in salads, used as a sauce for different recipes and even taken as juice 🥤.The water content of tomatoes is around 95%. The other 5% consist mainly carbohydrates and fiber. Tomatoes are a good source of several vitamins and minerals, such as vitamin C, potassium, vitamin K and folate.

Health is wealth, when you eat good you feel good.

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